Here it is. My first post. Blogging with my authentic self.

Redefining My own identity & Unsubscribing to externally assigned narratives. 

Just like any version of software or digital currency, you, IN REAL LIFE, have the right to patch your own insecurities, protect any vulnerabilities & update your operating system to perform optimally AS YOU WERE INTENDED. Your narrative is agile and constantly changing, especially based on new information, usability and error logs. However, the motherboard from where you operate is self-worth/confidence, childhood/youth upbringing and history. Don’t tell me you thought everything was brand new?! *This is not to say, pretend to be something you are not. 

Let me explain with another anecdote…My journey to unsubscribing looked like this: 

Change the narrative back to factory settings, you know, back to the time before the world misguided me. Heal my inner child. Retrace my steps to see that misstep & get back on the path to who I am authentically.  

Coming from a family with sound morals and guidance is valued in society and it shows in my character. There is no way that anyone can reassign or reinterpret how I was raised. Facts are facts. It was good but not perfect.  Family taught me my work ethic and how to treat others with compassion and respect.  Skills and intellect are paychecks and we go through life collecting them so we will never see poverty if we carry the knowledge with us. Always be working to some extent. Later, I learned that this is  Ikigai. 

Unsubscribing for me was leaving behind people with nothing to lose or always looking for something to gain from my hand.  People that always show up empty handed, physically and metaphorically – nothing to contribute to the cause or operation. 

Unsubscribing was also my realization that I had several father figures and entrepreneurial mentors in my village growing up but I thought it should look like it did on Family Matters, The Cosby Show or Leave It to Beaver. I know my age is showing! Ha! Maybe I should have just said a TV sitcom. Anyway, I had extended family as a village who raised me. It was to my detriment to overlook that Mama (and ‘nem) didn’t raise no fool. They all contributed in some capacity. 

So, if I am unreachable, or by your definition “acting funny” and suddenly misaligned, it may just be that I’ve unsubscribed to the narrative assigned to me and I permanently opted back into the channels that truly define me. You might want to refresh since I have recently recalibrated to match the proper motherboard. Or UNSUBSCRIBE. 

This is proof for me to understand how personal development is essential to realize any true professional development. 

I feel like healed my inner child, always striving to align my habits and tribe with the correct narrative so the professional adult me can shine. 

GO AHEAD & UNSUBSCRIBE. It’s time. I did it first, now it’s your turn. If you are afraid, just turn off the comments & tell them to go write it in a journal (yes you can do that on & off the Internet).  

With love & intention,

Jay Kay